How to Be the Best Father

I’ve always valued my privacy, but those close to me know I’ve faced significant challenges. Despite the difficulties, I wouldn’t change a thing. These obstacles have shaped my journey of self-improvement and unexpected growth.

Early Aspirations

As a child, while others dreamed of becoming firemen, doctors, or teachers, my dream was to be a family man—a husband and a father. Today, I’m blessed with an amazing, supportive, and adventurous family. But having a family isn’t just about being together; it’s about being the best version of myself for them. There was a significant period after my military service where I struggled, and those closest to me bore the brunt of that pain. I was far from the best father and husband I could be.

The Struggle

I spent years helping others heal, often neglecting my health until it was impossible to ignore. Some of you may have heard me talk about the three stresses, as referenced by Dr. Joe Dispenza and others: Physical, Emotional, and Chemical. I began working intensely on these areas, which led to the creation of KLĒNR to eliminate chemical stress. Along the way, I heard a quote: “People say the most important work you can do is raise kids. In reality, the most important work you can do is work on yourself. Because in turn, you will be better for your kids.” This resonated deeply with me.

The Transformation

Initially, I struggled with the idea that focusing on myself was selfish. What I discovered was that it’s not selfish; it’s honoring yourself. This shift not only benefits you but also those around you. As I’ve learned, “The impact we have on others can ripple across eternity.” You have the choice of whether that impact is positive or negative.

A New Perspective

There’s still plenty of room for growth, and I work on this daily. But I know that focusing on self-improvement is making me a better person, a better husband, and a better father. Happy Father’s Day!


 Written by CT, ~Father's Day 2024




  • Fernando Lamounier said:

    Short and to the point! I definitely can relate…No doubt being a dad is the toughest job a man has!
    Much Love!

    June 16, 2024

  • John Donewar said:

    Very open and honest, CT.
    It shows me something about you that I already knew. Integrity is very high on your list of must haves.

    It also touched me that it was written / posted on 6/13/24 which would have been my father’s 105th birthday.

    Miss our long “walks” and conversations.

    John ;-)

    June 16, 2024

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